The other night I was driving home from a date and I was reflecting on the evening and wondering if dating ever changes. Experience tells me it doesn't, but maybe it just doesn't for me! I've never been a big dater, really preferring to stay at home and watch a movie or play cards with friends. My friends and I have often discussed how dating is so awkward and uncomfortable. Especially the end of the date, there's always that question going through your head, Do I kiss him...hug...shake hands....or just walk away? So, as we're saying goodbye, he leans in for the hug and turns his head and kisses me right on the neck! I uncomfortably pulled away and said, "Okay, see you soon!" Now, upon reflection, this is the same thing I would have done as a 16 year old! Some things just don't change, I suppose. You'd think I should have learned to be savvy in the ways of dating, but clearly, I haven't!
I also started thinking about how choosing a mate changes as you get older. I don't think I would choose the same person today that I would have chosen 10 years ago. I wonder how many people end up settling because someone happened to be there when they were lonely, or wanting a family or for whatever reason. But then again, what is settling? I've never been of the frame of mind that there is only one person out there for me (funny since I still haven't found someone...one would think it wouldn't be that difficult), but rather there are many people whose personalities work well together. After all, love is a choice, right? And marriage is a commitment and you must be able to work well together so the importance of passion, or rather the level of passion has decreased as I've matured.
I'm going to continue this frame of mind in a later entry. I've many things floating around in my head.
On a side note....I'm going to consider giving up watching college sports (really just Baylor). There must be something wrong when while watching them play, my heart beats more beats per minute then when I'm running! I HATE being so freakin' competitive!
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I liked this post, Marci. I'm thinking of this in light of the conversation we had the other day about how wanting someone to be your friend never changes either. I'm sure dating is the same. What silly people we are!
I also liked your point about settling, or choosing love. I whole-heartedly believe that anyone I married would end up driving me crazy, and that it's absolutely my choice to love and be happy... and I am! (Not that there aren't important characteristics to look for in a spouse.)
Can't wait to hear more!
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